Guest Blogger Emily Cappo is a writer and blogger at Oh Boy Mom. She is a mom to three boys and one girl dog named Matilda, a sweet and cuddly Labradoodle. Matilda and Emily are also a certified pet therapy team.
When we adopted our sweet Labradoodle, Matilda, more than five years ago, our friends and family members assumed our three boys had pushed us for another dog after our Portuguese Water Dog, Bosley, passed away at the age of 13.
Although the kids were all in favor of adopting a new dog, I was equally enthusiastic. I had always had a dog in my life, and couldn’t imagine not having a furry companion living with us.
Matilda was a joy from the moment we brought her home, and she was the perfect addition to our family. At first, I did not considered adopting a second dog, but when a friend of mine rescued a mixed- breed puppy that curled up in my lap as soon as he met me, I started to seriously consider the idea.
We haven’t yet taken the plunge to give Matilda a sibling, and I wonder if Matilda would enjoy having a companion. She seems perfectly content to be the lone dog, of the house and when we go to the dog park, she shows more interest in the other dog owners than the dogs themselves.
I have heard stories of people adopting a second dog who doesn’t get along with their resident dog. I have plenty of chaos in my house with three rowdy boys—do I really need to add another dog to the mix? And, what if our second dog is like our old dog, Bosley, who was a loud barker with an insatiable appetite for stealing human food?
I have realized that these are trivial concerns, because family is not something you can dictate by waving a magic wand. You can make a conscious decision to add to your family – with both kids and pets – and yet you can’t control the dynamic anymore than you can control the weather. I know that well, as I watch my three boys forge three very different paths in this world.
We’ve decided that a second dog is definitely in our future. I can’t wait to find Matilda a brother or a sister!
Danielle Sullivan, a mom of three, has worked as a writer and editor in the parenting world for over 10 years. Danielle also writes about pets and parenting for Disney’sBabble.com. Find her on her blog,Some Puppy To Love,Twitter, or Facebook.
Our black Lab, Django, and our Chihuahua, Hayley, have been pretty spoiled this summer. There is usually someone home at any given time for them to play with, hang out with outside or to hand off a treat here and there. I was just thinking about how dramatically their worlds will change when our kids head back to school.
As my kids are in grammar school, high school and college, our schedules have just changed at the speed of lighting. The once-lazy days of hanging poolside with a barbecue going have been replaced by fast-paced mornings and hectic evenings. The dogs won’t likely receive much affection each day until late afternoon.
Hayley is about 10-years-old, and she does fine on her own if left to her own devices. Django, on the other hand, is three-years-old and a total mush. She loves nothing more than hanging out with her people, and as long as she is with us, she’s perfectly happy. As it turns out, that may problematic.
Adjusting to life post-maternity leave was a struggle. We encountered day care drama and I fought to find the energy to get everything done.
One day, all the pieces came together for my husband, Matt, and me. We even made our bed. I felt like Super Parent with a milk-stained, sparkly cape.
That was until I returned home and pulled back the covers on the bed. Screams and panic followed. There in the center of the bed was a Lake Superior-sized puddle of yellow dog pee, and it reeked. Mr. Happy, our dog, had not only urinated all over the bed and pillows, but also had the chutzpah and talent to somehow get the blankets back to look like the bed was still made.
Occasional canine bladder accidents come with dog ownership. But when is it normal behavior versus cause for medical concern? Frequent dog urination can range from medical or behavior issues to the failure to spay or neuter your pets. Your veterinarian is a key partner in addressing frequent dog urination, and the ASPCA website offers fantastic information on dog marking. Solving the problem is often a simple fix (pardon the pun), and low-cost spay/neuter services are offered in many communities.
Our situation fell on the more serious side. After Mr. Happy engaged in other destructive behaviors, our vet referred us to a board-certified veterinarian behaviorist. We learned that Mr. Happy's urination was a byproduct of separation anxiety. Our beloved dog had grown accustomed to having someone at home, and was devastated when his humans left him for the day. Our behaviorist developed a treatment plan, which we continue to tweak based on Mr. Happy's mood. Separation anxiety impacts many animals, and it is important to consult a medical professional so you can get the best help for your pet.
When I wake up in the morning, before my brain can register what day of the week it is, my ears ring with the sounds of:
Diva, my 10-year-old, egg-laying cockatiel, tweeting and “dancing” in her cage to the oldies station;
Mr. Happy, my 6-year-old rescue dog, who suffers from many forms of anxiety, barking for someone to throw his favorite duck toy; and
My 2-year-old toddler, negotiating potty training and screaming that it’s time for her to feed Diva and Mr. Happy.
All of this happens before 6:15 A.M. I’m Erin, and my home resembles Times Square. It is loud, busy, exciting and sometimes smells like an overturned garbage truck on a hot day. Are my husband, Matt, and I off our rockers for embracing this lifestyle? Probably. We do have a daily pill sorter for our dog, after all. As my answers to frequently asked questions explain below, we can’t imagine living our lives any other way.
Q: Doesn’t having a small child and multiple pets make you crazy?
A: Craziness is all relative. There are plenty of things in the world that are crazier than having both small children and pets—would you cancel a trip to the park for your child or pet to burn off some energy due to a slight chance of rain? I don’t think so.
Q: You have a lot of living things to keep happy. How do you get it all done?
A: Delegation! My pets and toddler often entertain each other. Think of all the fun, interactive games you can play as an interspecies family, such as an updated version of a classic game called, “Clue: What Did I Just Step In?” Watch the whole family gather at scene of the crime to uncover the mystery. Keep in mind, the one family member or pet who is hiding during this game is mostly likely the prime suspect.
Q: If you could do it all again, would you?
A: You bet! Rewind to 2004, when Matt and I brought home our bird, Diva. Even if I knew then what I know now—the mess, the noise and the smells – I would still make the same decision. They’ve all taught me important life lessons ranging from remembering to smile and dance to being sure to give unconditionally.
When we first adopted Mr. Happy, a trainer said he had no hope of getting over his fear of dogs. Guess what? You can teach an old dog new tricks. To me, a beautiful image is not a sunset—it is seeing your dog walk right next to another dog after going through weeks of specialized training.
I’m excited to team-up with ASPCA Parents to share the wonders of pet ownership and raising young children. Stay tuned for next month’s post, when I share what’s worse than having a horse’s head in your bed. Don’t worry—no animals were harmed in the process!
Guest blog by Emily Schneider, a proud mom of two feisty yorkies and a two-year-old living in the Garden State. Emily works in media and public relations for the ASPCA. Find her onTwitter.
I must admit that it took a major disaster like Hurricane Sandy to inspire me to create a preparedness plan for my dogs, Mikey and Olive. When Sandy hit the Northeast, it was devastating to hear stories of pet parents who either left their pets behind in flooded homes, or worse, stayed home with their pets, putting the entire family at risk. Thankfully, my city allows pets at emergency shelters so pet owners didn’t have to make that choice.
It’s important to have a disaster plan for your pets, and what better way than to enlist your kids to help you create a plan and pet emergency kit.
Here are three tips as you start building a preparedness plan for your pet:
Keep an emergency kit and supplies handy with items such as a photo of your pet, vaccination records, water, pet food and medications. ASPCA experts suggest putting medical documents along with a photo of your pet in a Ziploc bag, and taping it to the pet carrier so it’s easy to locate when you need to evacuate quickly. It’s best to prepare a hard plastic pet carrier to carry in case of emergency. Your kids can help you put this kit together as you teach them about the importance of planning for a disaster.
Make sure your pets have collars and ID tags with up-to-date information. If you don’t have a collar or ID tags, take your kids to a local pet store (one that doesn’t sell puppies) and teach them about the importance of pets wearing ID tags in case they get lost. The ASPCA also recommends microchip as a more permanent form of ID, which can be your pet’s ticket home as long as you update your contact info if it changes.
Find out where you can take your pets in the event of evacuation. Some communities allow pets in emergency shelters, but others may not. Contact your local emergency management office, animal shelter or animal control to locate pet-friendly housing in your area.
The ASPCA recently launched its interactive mobile app, which is a great resource for disaster planning. The free app is available on iPhone and Android systems, and offers information to help pet parents protect their pets before and during disasters, as well as customized step-by-step instructions to find missing pets. The app also offers a place to safely store and update medical records for your pets. This handy tool is very easy to use and accessible as long as you have your phone. For more info and tips on disaster preparedness, visit www.aspca.org/mobileapp.
It’s often too late for pet parents to evacuate with their pets or pack essential items when they’re in a middle of a disaster, which is why it’s important to plan in advance so we don’t put ourselves and our pets in danger. My son is too young to truly understand the meaning of disaster preparedness, but he knows that helping mommy create an emergency kit is going to keep Mikey and Olive safe when we need to leave the house in a hurry.